The Joy of the Lord is My Strength

Discussions on grieving infant death & stillbirth; only the strength of the Lord makes it possible to tell the tale...

Monday, September 29, 2008

Treasures In Heaven

Treasures In HeavenWell, I'm nearly done. I just have to put together a user-friendly shopping cart and upload a bunch of pix. I got the inspiration to do memory bracelets from the girls. I love Swarovski crystals and truth be told, I've made some really beautiful bracelets since the girls passed away. I credit Abigail for encouraging me not to sell myself short. She whispered to my heart that my bracelets are most definitely worthy of touching someone's heart--that a workman is worthy of her hire. So I've been running around putting everything together so that I'll do well in business and not leave my customers diesappointed in any way. My aim is to bring honor to my girls and comfort to a mother's heart--whether it's with a birthstone bracelet for her living children/grandchildren. Or for a loss mom enduring the sufferings of pregnancy & infant loss awareness. I've got some beautiful creative ideas for using pink & blue Swarovski cyrstals, cultured pearls and sterling spacers. I'll add sterling awareness ribbon charms to the lovely heart clasps. I'm eager to be a special part of someone's Christmas or even for the Pregnacy And Infant Loss month of October. I'm getting ready, so now I just have to get the word out. Info is on my site and special orders are always considered. May the Lord bless my efforts and add the increase...
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Sunday, September 21, 2008

Unto The Father, I Commend my Spirit

If I knew the cemetery where this monument stood, I'd make a pilgramage to see it. It speaks to the depths of my heart. The baby's limp lifelessness captures the essence of all I had with my girls. Abigail's toes were so very similar, and the same manner of her arms as I held her fervently to my bosom...

It penetrates me that the mother's hidden eyes are not part of the photograph. They look upward to heaven. You can feel from her presence that she is speachless, and yet her desperate plea for "Why?" is indescribable. In her aching arms she dedicates her child unto Giver. She is overwhelmed in her need for for answers. She is overcome with a love beyond telling. To have such a monument to a mother's loss would be a treasured thing in our cemetery. I'm reminded that I'd love to have a Christmas Box angel erected at in the baby section where Abigail & Anne are. I hate that the project overwhelms me. I persevere toward health.

Sunday, September 14, 2008

WhooHooo: Sarah Palin Has Arrived

Okay all you Hillary voters, it's time to get your vote ready for McCain/Palin--don't let that skoundrel Joe Biden and his sexist, racist, anti-semitic running mate get anywhere near the White House.

A woman in the White House--wow! I get goosebumps when I think of just how close we are. Even SNL knows a good thing when they see it!

Two thumbs up for Palin/McCain--I haven't been this politically excited since Sandra D. O'Connor put on her black robe!

Come on Gals--we're in this to WIN--whoohoo!

Friday, September 12, 2008

Persecuted, But Not Forsaken; Cast Down, But Not Destroyed -- 2 Cor 4:9

September 11, 2008. Seven years later, families continue to heal from the loss of their loved ones. Seven years later, our country continues to defend us from those who wish to cause us harm. Seven years later, a nation comes together to remember all who fell and all who continue to fight for our freedom.

In honor of the lives lost that horrific day, we pause, to remember and to pray. Wherever you happen to be as you read this, take a moment to lift up in prayer all those affected by these tragic events. Write your prayer on our Prayer Wall to respect the memories of those gone. Light a Candle in their honor.

Seven years later, let us all remember to never forget.
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Wednesday, September 10, 2008

WORLD Magazine | Sarah Surge

WORLD Magazine: Today's News, JudeoChristian Views

Vickie's Note: I don't know about the rest of the country, but this woman has my vote a hundred times over!
--Thank You, Dear Lord for sending us another 'Deborah' at such a time as this! God's Name Forever Be Praised...

'Northern light' - Sept 20, 08
Months and months into our long presidential campaign, a small-town hockey mom turns establishment politics on its head. Those who know her best say Americans have only seen the beginning of Alaskan toughness.
--Mark Bergin
WASILLA, Alaska--Alaska just might be America's biggest small town—and its governor America's biggest small-town girl. Sarah Palin's rapid rise to political stardom has set the Land of the Midnight Sun abuzz. She is the conversation of grocery store checkout lines, the featured topic of most every radio program, and a fixture on the flat-screen televisions of neighborhood sports bars, now tuned to round-the-clock cable news."

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Tuesday, September 09, 2008

That's It! Now I Really Really Despise Joe Biden!!!

Joe Biden Slams
Sarah Palin on
Down Syndrome Son
Washington, DC
( -- Joe Biden, Barack Obama's pro-abortion running mate, is coming under fire for comments he made today attacking vice-presidential candidate Sarah Palin. After attacking her on abortion, Biden then slammed Palin on the birth of her son, who has Down syndrome.
During her acceptance speech last week, Paling promised the parents of disabled children that she would be their advocate in the White House.
Biden questioned that commitment by attacking Palin's stance on the issue of embryonic stem cell research, which has never helped a single patient.

"I hear all this talk about how the Republicans are going to work in dealing with parents who have both the joy, because there's joy to it as well, the joy and the difficulty of raising a child who has a developmental disability, who were born with a birth defect,' Biden said.

"Well guess what folks? If you care about it, why don't you support stem cell research?" Biden asked, questioning Palin's commitment.

The McCain campaign released a statement to on Tuesday responding to Biden's accusation and saying Biden's comments on stem cell research were "offensive."

"Barack Obama's running mate sunk to a new low today launching an offensive debate over who cares more about special needs children," McCain spokesman Ben Porritt said. "Playing politics with this issue is disturbing and indicative of a desperate campaign."

Marjorie Dannenfelser, the head of the Susan B. Anthony List, a pro-life women's group, also took strong exception to Biden's "caustic" comments.
"Biden outrageously implied that Americans who refuse to sacrifice innocent human life in the name of unproven, desperate attempts to cure our nation’s ills through embryo-destructive research somehow don't really care about children," she told

"I am a mother of five children, one with a mental disability. The fact that Joe Biden questioned the compassion of parents like me – Governor Sarah Palin, among them – makes me sputter in disbelief," she added.

"The fact that Joe Biden questioned the compassion of parents like me – Governor Sarah Palin, among them – makes me sputter in disbelief," she said.“Compassion can never be built upon callous disregard for human life. History has shown this has lead to the near elimination of entire classes of human beings. I want to talk to him about compassion – and not the kind that leads to the gas chamber," Dannenfelser continued.

During her speech, Palin told the more than 37 million Americans watching: To the families of special-needs children all across this country, I have a message: For years, you sought to make America a more welcoming place for your sons and daughters.

She continued, "I pledge to you that if we are elected, you will have a friend and advocate in the White House."

by Steven Ertelt Editor
September 9, 2008

Sarah Palin: Now She Makes Me Proud

Campaign 2008:

Who is Sarah Palin, Sen. John McCain’s newly crowned running mate?

She is a signal to red-meat conservatives. The Alaska governor’s ascension from the Wasilla City Council to her state’s highest office moved forward on a commitment to efficient, accountable government. She famously quashed Alaska’s infamous “Bridge to Nowhere” project and shut down the steady flow of federal pork to her state, even that supported by fellow Republicans. What’s more, she’s a lifelong hunter with an appetite for moose burgers and hobbies like ice fishing and snowmobiling.

Sarah Palin is a shot of youth and social history into the campaign of an aging white man. The former runner-up in the Miss Alaska pageant defies GOP convention and at least partly undermines the media cheerleading for what would be an historic inauguration of Sen. Barack Obama. Palin, 44, is only the second female vice president nominee for a major party and would be the first woman to fill the office if elected.

Sarah Palin is a mother of five. Her oldest, Track, will deploy to Iraq as an army infantryman this September. Her youngest, Trig, was born this past April with Down syndrome. In between are three daughters, Bristol, Willow, and Piper. Palin’s husband, Todd, is part Yup’ik Eskimo and a four-time winner of the 2,000-mile Iron Dog snowmobile race.

Sarah Palin is pro-life and pro-marriage. She served as head of her high school’s chapter of the Fellowship of Christian Athletes. Richard Land, president of the Southern Baptist Convention’s Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission, told CBS last month that of all of McCain’s potential VP picks, Palin would most energize evangelicals. She is a member of Feminists for Life. Alaska state Rep. Wes Keller, who has attended Wasilla Bible Church with Palin for years, told WORLD that "she is the real thing as far as being a Christian."

Sarah Palin is no “yes” woman. She disagrees with McCain on a number of issues, none more important, perhaps, than whether the nation should tap oil reserves in the Alaska’s Arctic National Wildlife Refuge. McCain has consistently sided with environmentalists on the issue, but may have shown new willingness to change with his recent capitulation to pressure for off-shore drilling. Palin is likely the most qualified person in the world to convince McCain to pull the trigger in ANWR. As state Sen. Fred Dyson put it in reference to Palin's 74-percent approval rating among Alaskans: "She certainly charms all of us."

Finally, Sarah Palin offers quite a contrast to Democrat VP nominee Joe Biden, just the kind of perception-based counter-jab McCain may need to take down Obama.

Mark Bergin
Associated Press/Photo by Kiichiro Sato

Copyright © 2008 WORLD MagazinePublished August 29, 2008

Monday, September 08, 2008

True Suffrage Demands a Pro-Life Ideology

Hours before Supreme Court nominee Samuel Alito's confirmation hearings began Jan. 9, 2006 on Capitol Hill, Myra Myers sought a hearing of her own on the steps of the Supreme Court. She carried her message on a dark blue sign that read: "My abortion hurt me."

Mrs. Myers, now 61, was 28 and married when she learned she was pregnant with her sixth child in January 1973. Just weeks after the Supreme Court handed down its decision in Roe v. Wade, her husband persuaded her to have an abortion and later reassured her, "It was the only thing that could be done."

"I thought that because it was legal it might be OK," Mrs. Myers told WORLD. "And I believed the lie that the child I was carrying was not a baby." Both spouses now say it was the worst decision they ever made.

Mary Lou Greenburg doesn't want to hear it. Ms. Greenburg joined about a dozen counterprotesters at the court on the same day, protesting Mr. Alito's nomination. She told pro-life demonstrators: "It's not a baby till it comes out—that's what birthdays are all about."

The counterprotesters dubbed the first day of Mr. Alito's confirmation hearings "Bloody Monday." Two women wore white gowns with red stains across their stomachs, but they weren't the first to wave the bloody shirt. At a "Women for Alito" event hosted by Concerned Women for America Jan. 5, a small group of women, one wearing a shirt smeared with fake blood, brandished a coat hanger and chanted: "Bush and Alito will outlaw abortion and women will die! Bush and Alito will outlaw abortion and women will die!"

CWA chief counsel Jan LaRue, describing the outburst as "stunning," pointed out that pro-abortion women have opposed every Republican high court nominee since Lewis Powell, President Nixon's 1971 pick. "These folks are really, really desperate."

Desperate—and hunkering down in their foxhole of choice: the Supreme Court. Thirty-three years ago, in a ruling that pivoted on the vote of Justices Powell (ironically) and Blackmun, the court swept away protection for the unborn.

But as the death toll mounted—more than 40 million—so has public and legislative opposition. Today, at least 11 states significantly restrict abortion through parental consent, notification, and regulatory laws, while other states, such as New Hampshire in Ayotte v. Planned Parenthood, are litigating over similar statutes.

Ayotte, a 2005 high court case in which Planned Parenthood is trying to crush New Hampshire's parental notification law, underscores the divide between the feminist-led abortion lobby and mainstream Americans: In a November 2005 Gallup/CNN/USA Today poll, 69 percent of respondents said girls under 18 should have to tell their parents before getting an abortion. Meanwhile, between two-thirds and three-quarters of Americans favor limitations on the procedure, or support banning it altogether (according to 2005 polls by CBS News, CNN/USA Today, and The Polling Company/Woman Trend).

Now comes Samuel Alito, President Bush's second nominee and the first in 13 years to offer abortion foes real hope of an ideological shift on the court. While Chief Justice John Roberts replaced fellow conservative William Rehnquist, Mr. Alito, also a conservative, would replace swing-voting moderate Sandra Day O'Connor. Legal experts on the left and right say an Alito confirmation would likely move the court from a 6-3 majority in favor of Roe to a more tenuous 5-4 pro-Roe split (the Roe court itself voted 7-2).

With popular support in decline, the National Organization for Women (NOW), Planned Parenthood, and others are increasingly shrill. But for conservative women's groups like the Susan B. Anthony List (SBA), the battleground shift is affirming their progress in shaping both public opinion and pro-life office-holders.

Pro-abortion women in Congress motivated SBA founder and board chairwoman Marjorie Dannenfelser. As a student at Duke University in the 1980s, she was a political conservative and a member of the College Republicans. But, she said, "I used to be pro-choice. For a relatively smart human being, I will say my sincere belief was that if I chose to have an abortion it was nobody's business but mine."

That belief got her named co-chair of the school's GOP group, she recalls, irony infusing her soft Southern accent: "I was chosen to be co-chair because I was pro-choice and the other chairman was pro-life. I balanced things out."

Gradually, though, fellow students convinced her that abortion was both anti-liberty and anti-woman. "Some really smart people took a lot of time talking to me about it. At the same time, people with really strong faith were praying for me and I didn't even know that." At that time an Episcopalian, Ms. Dannenfelser said her view of God didn't affect her views on abortion until she converted to Roman Catholicism. "I don't think I would've been able to make such a dramatic change if it weren't for the deepening of my faith."

After graduation, she worked for the Heritage Foundation and the Congressional Pro-Life Caucus. Nearly every female member of Congress was pro-abortion. Ms. Dannenfelser seethed as they declared to pro-life men in House debates, "You have no right to speak [on abortion]. I represent women." Their presumption, Ms. Dannenfelser said, "was a daily source of consternation. I just couldn't abide it."

Every woman but two elected to Congress in 1992, dubbed "Year of the Woman," surfed into office on waves of cash from groups like Emily's List, a liberal organization dedicated to funding the election campaigns of pro-abortion women. That year, Ms. Dannenfelser and others formed SBA. In 1997, she teamed with Jane Abraham, wife of then-Sen. Spencer Abraham (R-Mich.), who helped expand SBA's mission into voter education and mobilization, and grassroots lobbying. The group spun off a political action committee, the SBA List Candidate Fund, with the goal of squaring off against Emily's List.

The results have been dramatic: In 2000, SBA List candidates won 17 of 24 races; in 2002, 22 of 32. In 2004, the SBA List helped propel into office seven new pro-life senators and 20 new pro-life members in the House. Overall, the SBA List candidates won 77 percent of their races, while only 39 percent of Emily's List candidates won election in 2004. This, though the pro-abortion group pumped $45 million into the race, while SBA spent a combined total of $6 million on campaign contributions, voter outreach, and mobilization.

That result highlights the error of well-funded campaigns that claim pro-life women are "out of touch with the mainstream." Kellyanne Conway, president of The Polling Company/Woman Trend, found just the opposite: Only one in 10 Americans believes abortion should be legal at all times and for any reason. Among self-identified liberals, the number espousing that view rises slightly, to one in four.

Ms. Conway said sonogram technology has done much to close the gap. "If you're going to tell most 25-year-olds that this moving image they see on the screen isn't a human being, they're going to laugh at you." For the same reason, the propaganda of the "back-alley abortion" is wearing thin. "Young women no longer believe that a woman in the U.S. who can see her baby on a sonogram and go to any corner Starbucks and get a latte 16,000 different ways would have to retreat to a back alley to get an abortion. They just don't believe that. It's not the way they see the world."

Adding to the shift are the testimonies of thousands of women who have experienced the negative abortion fallout firsthand. Groups like the Silent No More Awareness Campaign and Operation Outcry are publicizing what they experience after exercising their right to choose: infertility, severe depression, substance abuse, and relentless self-loathing.

Eighteen months after her abortion, Myra Myers felt "devastating grief and a crushing weight of guilt" over her abortion. At a Sunday evening church service, Mrs. Myers realized: "Oh, God. I murdered my child." She sought God's forgiveness and has since sought to tell other women her story through Operation Outcry.

Mrs. Myers on Jan. 9, 2006 was joined by nearly a dozen other women who had also aborted and lived to regret it. Some pushed empty strollers; others wore baby shoes like boutonnieres.

A 2005 study added academic weight to anecdotal claims. University of Oslo researchers compared the mental distress of women who had miscarried with those who had voluntarily aborted their pregnancies. While women who miscarried suffered more initially, those who aborted carried lasting emotional scars. After five years, fewer than three in 100 women who had miscarried still experienced mental distress. But one in five post-abortive women still suffered mentally and emotionally and said they had to make an effort to avoid thinking about the event.

Early pioneers of women's rights instinctively understood this. "The woman is awfully guilty who commits [abortion]," said suffragist Susan B. Anthony. "It will burden her conscience in life, it will burden her soul in death."

According to Feminists for Life, the early suffragists opposed abortion. "When we consider that women are treated as property, it is degrading to women that we should treat our children as property to be disposed of as we see fit," wrote suffragist Elizabeth Cady Stanton in 1873.

"It's a simple thing when you look back," said SBA's Jane Abraham. "Most of these feminists, who worked hard for the right to vote, also fought against slavery and the exploitation of children. Understanding that the unborn are the most vulnerable in our society, their feelings on abortion were a natural extension of that philosophy. They looked at abortion as anti-woman."

They might see it as even more so now. Since 1973, more than 20 million American women have arrived not as infant girls who would grow to enjoy hard-won freedoms, but as medical waste. Today's pro-abortion feminists, though, seem willfully blind to that fact and to their own ties with foremothers who, as feminist pioneer Alice Paul said, saw abortion as "the ultimate exploitation of women."

Meanwhile, as pro-abortion activists have for the past 34 years, they're trying to brand Judge Samuel Alito as the ultimate exploiter of women. But the work of pro-life women, reflecting mainstream views, has helped to solidify a Republican Senate majority that makes an Alito confirmation likely.

"Ten years ago, it was just a pipe dream to think we would have any opening [on the high court] at all to be able to restrict abortion," Ms. Dannenfelser said. "We're clearly closer today."

—with reporting by Jamie Dean in Washington, D.C. World Magazine, January 21, 2006--(bolding & highlighting mine/photo: Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B Anthony)

Sunday, September 07, 2008

A Tribute to Women's Suffrage

Mine Are Front & Center - -Born Silent, Silent Still

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Wednesday, September 03, 2008

If Only We Could Trap Time in a Bottle...

Making it Through Another Anniversary...

It was four years ago that we conceived our sweetie Anne. We conceived her Labor Day weekend, 2004. We buried her Independence Day weekend, 2005--not enough time with her AT ALL!!!

Today was especially riddled with grieving. I've been sick, so that hasn't helped. Sometimes I just miss them like crazy. Other times it's as if it's all a dream.

I cried a lot today. I cried a lot yesterday too. I've cried a lot this entire summer.

I bought some beautiful photographs off Etsy--cemetery statuary. I will upload and post later--such beautiful expressions of grief. No one invests in cemetery statuaries anymore.